Expectation, a tricky subject
“You know your problem, Quentin? You keep expecting people not to be themselves."
- John Green, Papertown
When I was younger, I expect a lot of things for my future. Well, growing up a few years later, I realise that not all things that I expected come true but I guess that does not mean I fail in my life, I guess. Having an expectation and not meeting the reality helps us to try to approach life in a different way sometimes. And that's how human mature.
Relationship-wise, I used to expect a lot of things from my friends and it kinda puts our relationship at strain. And oh boy, I did feel very disappointed when my friend did not as what I expect them to do for me. This especially hurts when I think I would do the same for them. But once again, you can have expectation but you can't change the person.
I don't really say you must stop having expectation though. Expectations lead to disappointment when you expect people to do something that is not themselves. I mean, I could hate one of my best friends because she can be too overly concerned whenever I don't feel the mood to talk but that's okay, that's her. While on the other hand, I tend to overthink my travel plan rather than whack it and let the spontaneity takes it course during the trip but hey, that's me. She likes me anyway.
I guess at the end expectation is a matter of perspective. It becomes a burden when you expect someone to do something that can only be done by God.
